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Getting Out of the Comfort Zone
By Sarah B., YES Abroad 2015-2016, Bosnia and Herzegovina
I spent five days visiting western Serbia with my host Nana (grandmother) and host sister in January. Those five days contained some of the most immersive experiences, both culturally and linguistically, of my exchange thus far. Although we were in Serbia, the cities we visited – Priboj and Prijepolje –have a similar culture to Bosnia.
On Wednesday, January 13, we left Sarajevo via taxi. Initially we planned to take a bus, but another woman going to Priboj said we could share the taxi with her. I have never met her before, but in the three and half hour drive we got to know each other, and as we parted ways, Nana referred to her as "cousin." This shows two aspects of Bosnian (and Serbian) culture particularly well: the trust people have for one another and the relaxed attitude towards changing plans. The reason that Nana called her cousin was because the woman shared her surname, and it seems as if many older Bosnians consider all people with shared surnames to be their cousins.
From there, we spent the first two days in Priboj, visiting old friends and walking around the town. Throughout this entire time, I did not meet a single person who spoke English, meaning that I was constantly forced to speak Bosnian/Croatian/Serbian (BCS), no matter how nervous I felt. Despite the language barrier, it was nice to meet Nana’s old friends, who all treated me not as the American, but as their friend’s grandchild.
After two days in Priboj, we took a bus to Prijepolje, where Nana’s sister, whom I call tetka (aunt), lives. In the three days we spent there, a dozen people visited us! Some highlights from the three days include:
- Learning the Bosnian kids game “Okos pokos prde kokos,” and playing it repeatedly with my host cousins
- Teaching English words to a very eager 8 year old girl and an old woman
- Teaching and playing American games with my host cousins
- Having multiple snowball fights with my host cousins and host sister
- Making Serbian pastries that taste like graham crackers
- Translating instructions on how to set up Anki, a language learning phone app, for my host aunt
- Drinking fresh cow’s milk
- Sitting with my entire host family and making palačinke (pancakes) with Nutella, raspberry jam, and margarine
- Teaching a host cousin about tornadoes
- Trying and failing to explain the geography of Texas
- Making jokes and doing silly things with my host cousins
Ultimately, my five-day visit to western Serbia was filled with laughter, learning, eating, and talking. I had the same conversation in BCS probably twenty different times, learned a lot about the culture, and had experiences that I’ll remember forever. The entire time I was in Serbia, I felt like I was part of the family and also a local, despite my seemingly constant confusion. I wasn’t ever in my comfort zone, but through speaking and doing, and learning from my mistakes, I made connections that will last a lifetime. I hope I can come back in the future, like so many requested I do. And even if I don’t, I’ll never forget all the people met, the conversations had, and the time spent there.